Would you say your Spouse or Life partner is much like your opposite sex parent? ?

It is said we often choose a mate based on these qualities, just wondering your thoughts?Would you say your Spouse or Life partner is much like your opposite sex parent? ?
I always respected my father for his ethics and honesty as I do my husband. I also love their humor.





They both worked very hard and very up front - what you see with the both of them is what you got.





My Father passed away when he was 68 - my Husband is still kicking but can't do all the things he use to do.





I love them both and so do our kid's.





The problem is . . . our daughter expect their husbands to be - just like their Father.





My husband is - just like my Father was.





Good question.


DeeJay.Would you say your Spouse or Life partner is much like your opposite sex parent? ?
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No, my spouse does not have any similarity to my late father. He


does suddenly have similarities to his late father the older he be-


comes, at this point in time. I chose my mate, for his strong


character, and masculine demeanor, and for his ability to make


sound decisions, knowing what he wanted out of life. I did not want


a 'father figure', but I have known women who have, and played,


'daddys' little girl' to the max. Then years later, as their father figure


aged, they had wandering eyes for younger men..


And promptly left the older man, and married the younger ones.


This can be devastating to an elderly man, whos' young wife takes


off with their child and finds a new relationship with someone in her


own age group. Usually the young wife becomes more active with


outdoor sports and changes her lifestyle to fit that of the younger


man, and leaves her former sedate life behind. Which leaves the


older ex husband visitation rights to see his child in an often awk-


ward situation. But life goes on. And often they can come out of


their estrangement as friends when the dust settles, for the sake


of their child, or children. Life is far from fair.
Yes, psychologists have discovered that most people choose a mate who is very similar to their opposite sex parent. This stems from the fact that we, as children felt comfortable with our parents. So, if essence it's the comfort factor that draws us to our mate's qualities which happen to be similar to your parents' and familiar to you. I suggest you read more Freud, it can give you some good insight.
I would say my partner of 11 years is a lot like my father. He's slow to anger, considerate, kind, has a lot of people that really like and respect him. I have read that people often choose a partner a lot like mom, but not in my case. My mother makes me want to tear out my hair - why would I choose someone like that? She is very critical of me and my friends. She can find fault with a sales clerk or a UPS man. I have always chosen partners/spouses that are not critical of me and other people, and have the same qualities of dad. In my youth, I always sought out men who looked liked dad, light eyes, blonde or light brown hair, slim. After half a century it only matters if they have the same qualities that my father has.
Years ago psychologists, etc., used to believe that. Now they are thinking you actually marry the parent with whom you had the most problems -- you are still trying to solve that dilemma. So if you are female and had a controlling mom, you are apt to marry a controlling man. If it was your dad who was controlling, you are still apt to marry a controlling man. Same thing for a man -- he'll marry a controlling woman, still trying to solve the problem with the parent.
I'm not sure that theory is 100% true. My husband is much different from my father in temperament, personality and drinking habits. I do realize Dad influenced my preference for men who are physically strong, mechanically inclined and not ashamed to work with their hands as well as their heads. None of those manicured, suit %26amp; tie wearing wheeler-dealers for me. Dad's faults also influenced me in my choice of a man to marry. No drinkers or ';gotta hang out with the guys'; types for me, ever.





Thanks for an interesting question. It made me stop and think about it.
I must not fit that mold. I am more like my paternal Grandpa and dad and my wife is almost exactly like her mom. ( Although she married me and I am much like her dad was)





So, maybe my wife married her';dad'; but I think I married my ';mother-in-law';. Think if it applies at all, more so to my wife than me and my wife adored her dad so I didn't see any problem there.





My mom is nothing like my wife and vice versa.
Nope, totally the opposite, thankfully! Because all the men in my family were tall I always pictured myself with a tall man - and one with black hair and blue eyes. Well, my husband has the blue eyes, but he's 1/4 inch shorter than I am and bald. But, the other differences between my father and my husband are vast. Father - pathological liar. Husband - the most honest person I ever met. Father - abandoned us when I was four. Husband - well, you would have to kill him to keep him away from his kids. I could go on, but the short answer is that I married the total opposite of my father.
I think in a way thats kind of true, I haven't really studied it BUT I have heard about it a lot. For example how girls are likely to marry men whom are like their fathers and boys their mothers. Like for example sometimes I notice little things in my ex's which are similar to my fathers that I dislike COMPLETELY!!! Plus I have noticed my last ex's mother was a bit controlling and when I dated him I acted a lot like her for some reason ? 0_o





I wish I really knew?
You darn right ! My opposite gender parent was female and being healthy and with my head on straight I sought a female and have been happy ever since. I found one young enough so I could finish raising her myself. Funny that my Sweetie makes the same claim. Very funny indeed.
In some ways, yes. He's like my dad. Ug!





In some ways, I'm like his mom too. I would have denied it to my death a few years ago...





But, we like the same things. Dislike the same things...





Again, let me just say...UG!
Yes is some ways. Because my parents had a really good marriage and I wanted the same good values as they had. I also was lucky to have married my best friend and soul mate.
Thank God no. My half sister spent her life looking for a man like daddy, she wanted daddy's approval and love and never got from her dad or the men she dated and the two different ones she married.
yes, i think so. we are likely to marry someone who bears some characteristics that left an impact in our life, be it positive or negative.
Not at all! My father was (RIP daddy) small in stature, soft spoken and could fix ANYTHING. My husband is big, loud and mechanically inept, lol.





BTW, I am NOTHING like his mom either (shudder).
He is entirely opposite.
Definitely.
Not really, but I think that he thought I was like his mom when we married. He found out pretty soon that that wasn't the case.
Mine are the opposite in many ways.
No. My father was a pedophile and so are 2 of my 4 brothers


My husband is happy,clean and kind...more like mom :) but not as likely to look the other way on anything :)
unfortunately, no.
I think that's logical...maybe that's why I prefer Native men because my dad was!!!
Nope. My partner is kind. My father was selfish and cruel.
Yes he is very much so.
I married my soul mate, not her Mum.

How do you write a wedding invitation if the groom and the bride's parent's are hosting?

I have my brides do it a couple of different ways...either the parents of (bride) and (groom) invite you to witness the marriage of their children...or... as (bride) and (groom) unite in life together their parents (bride's) and (groom's) invite you.... there are number of different ways...trying checking http://www.invitesgalore.com/wedding-inv鈥?/a> for some more suggestionsHow do you write a wedding invitation if the groom and the bride's parent's are hosting?
The invitation wording has nothing to do with who is paying. Having both sets of parents' names on it is the respectful thing to do - it just tells who he is the son of.... and who she is the daughter of....How do you write a wedding invitation if the groom and the bride's parent's are hosting?
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mr and mrs..so-n-so and mr and mrs so-n-so ..request your attendance at the wedding of their children..





The parents of so-and so and so-n-so request your presence


the families of So-N- So would like to invite you to the union of children
Mine read:


Mr. Barry %26amp; Mrs. Mary Smith


%26amp;


Mr. John %26amp; Mrs. Mary Doe


request the honour of your presence


at the marriage of their children


Jessie Smith


%26amp;


David Doe
We had that scenario for our wedding, too. We used this:





Mr. and Mrs. (bride鈥檚 dad)





and





Mr. and Mrs. (groom鈥檚 dad)





request the honor of your presence





in the marriage of their children





(bride鈥檚 full name)





and





(groom鈥檚 full name)





(day of week), the xxth of (month)





two thousand and (year number)
Mr %26amp; Mrs. Joe and Pam Flynt (bride's parents) and Mr %26amp; Mrs. Frank and Sally Cruz cordially invite you to the union of their children.





thats just an example you can switch it around, use just first names, it all depends on how formal you want your invitation,
brides name and grooms name together w/ their families or mr and mrs brides parents and mr and mrs grooms parent invite you to the marriage of their children...

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What can I do with old parent magazines being crafty,I dont want to throw away I collect them.?

Just thought I would ask! Has anyone did something creative, for gifts or something?What can I do with old parent magazines being crafty,I dont want to throw away I collect them.?
Get some bristol Board or a Presentation board and make a large collage using glue, sparkles, letters, pictures, colors etc. out of the magazines... Find somethings out of the magazines that truly portray who you are to add some personal flare, you can also choose the board of your choice of any color.What can I do with old parent magazines being crafty,I dont want to throw away I collect them.?
if you have children old enough to do little crafts you could cut out letters and pictures and let them use a gluestick to glue them to computer/white paper and create a picture or collage =]
donate some to a women's shelter. The ladies there often have young children and could use what your magazines suggest.





Also arts and crafts, well collage is the most common use for magazines. But some people glue them together, paint or cover them with contact paper and make door stops.

Is it ever appropriate for a parent to let their kid (under 18 yrs of age) drink alcoholic beverages?

I don't think it is appropriate. I began drinking when I was 16, and really didn't understand its effects fully for years. I put myself in some stupid situations. I think it sends the message that it is ok, and it really isn't. I think a kid should know himself well before they do mind altering substances of any kind.Is it ever appropriate for a parent to let their kid (under 18 yrs of age) drink alcoholic beverages?
Compared to other industrialized nations we are actually a fairly conservative, some would even say ';puritanical';, society. In places where there are no real enforced drinking ages and drinking is a more socially normative the rates of alcoholism are actually much lower.





Personally, drinking was never a big deal in my mother's house and my siblings and I all have very socially appropriate and healthy attitudes towards drinking. It just wasn't a ';big deal';. So, I would say ';Yes, in a healthy environment where there are healthy role models and open discussion and honesty about addictions.';Is it ever appropriate for a parent to let their kid (under 18 yrs of age) drink alcoholic beverages?
As long as its one drink and with your parents then i think its fine after a certain age. My mom would let us have a glass of wine, or champagne every now and then. I think it makes it so that kids dont see alcohol as this amazing thing that your parents wouldn't allow. I think becuase of my mom letting me drink every now and that its not that big of a deal and no right of passage that i never drank much as an adult. On my 21st birthday i had two drinks. My husband on the other had was told as an child that alchol was a horrible thing and so bad for you. He went to party's some times and drank. When he turned 21 he was so excited to have one drink that was legal. So no i don't think its wrong as long as it one drink every now and then with the parents only.
Get drunk: No


Have a sip: Sure





The few responsible drinkers I know were raised in homes where their parents let them drink responsibly as teenagers.





I know a few people who seem to be totally against alcohol. And you might accuse me of being borderline this way. Why? My mom did a good job of sheltering me from it, and the only times I have really seen it were in bad situations.





But I know even more people who can't handle alcohol responsibly. They were sneaking into it as kids (under 10 years old) and many were getting drunk with their parents by the time they were 18.





Anyhow, from what I have seen - teaching kids how to drink responsibly works best. And if my daughter really wants to try something when she's like 14 or 16 years old, I will let her. But I will also remind her how letting it get out of hand messed up her dad's life. (He is alive, but he is not very involved with our family.)
My husband and I have talked and talked and talked about this one and the decision we've come to is no. There's no reason your child needs to have alcohol before they are of leagal age. When I was a young teen I would have out with my older cousins who would allow me to drink*without my parents permision, and my parents would also now and then let me have a sip of their drink, never moe than a sip. But I think it's important to set an example for your children. I can remember back on the times my parents had a few too many and it really embarassed me and made me angry and ashamed of them. As an adult looking back, I think it was really inappropriate for them to be that way in front of me, all the while telling me to never drink. So as a parent, we decided we don't want our children to ever see us that way. and if they never see us that way it will give them a little more conviction themselves. However I an not nieve and know that anything can happen and they might choose to drink when they get older before they are of legal age, and that's a bridge we will have to cross if we get to it.
I think a sip is okay here and there if it's 18 plus. In the state of Texas you can drink with your legal guardian present or if you're married and under 21. I was 20 years old *3 days before my 21st birthday* and out to dinner with my grandparents, husband, and son (he was only a few months old at that point) and the waitress refused to serve me because I wasn't old enough even though I'd been drinking occasionally since we were married (over a year prior).
Lets be fair - kids are going to drink. We can't stop them. I'm a teenager myself, and I drink.


I think the most important thing is to educate your children about the effects of alcohol, and say that they can drink on the occasion in your home, or in the home of a close friend. They may not drink in front of others who are not allowed to drink.


I recommend starting a group between your child's friends and coming up with a battle plan for alcohol. In our community it's really helped to know that we can go to one of the homes and have a beer as long as we're responsible. It's like we don't have to hide anything anymore.





Education is the key. Also, it helps if all of the parents are taking the same stance on it.


But please, I stress upon you, that if your child wants to drink, they will, and it is much safer for them to do it in your home where you can keep an eye on them.
You know there is so much debate to this literally. The face that this kids see thier friends do it, the whole peer pressure thing. It can be hard but remember you need to be there for your kids. It will come down to two things either you can be a cool parent and let them drink and be supervised or they can go behind your back.
If the parent wants to teach the child how to drink responsibly BEFORE they reach the age of legally being able to 'drink themselves to death' then yes. I think it's very appropriate.





I let my children drink under my supervision from the age of 15, so they could experiment with the effects of alcohol and learn their own limits.
I think it depends on the culture- some people drink wine quite often (and Catholics do the communion thing at mass) so it isn't a big deal for a teen to have a glass of wine with dinner or whatever. And maybe a sip of champagne on New Years or something wouldn't be a big deal, but I wouldn't offer my kid alcohol until she's of legal age.
If the child is 16/17/18, and it's a holiday or family gathering and the adults are having a little bit of wine, etc. i see no problem in letting the teenager have a little.





in fact, i think it teaches kids how to drink responsibly. my dad did this with me. on occasion when i was with him, he let me have a sip. but i knew if he was not there, alcohol was off limits. and i stuck by that rule. my aunt was an alcholic and i knew first hand that i did not want to become one.
sure, Im in the US under age and I drink Once a month or just on special days.





My parents don't care


Im muslim and Im not supposed to drink or it would be considered a sin, but since my parents smoke they have sinned to and don't give a crap.





But for a 10yr old or younger it might be considered inappropriate, unless its for dinner or something.
Sure. Give them cigarettes and let them party until dawn while you're at it. Oh, and introduce them to someone of the opposite sex and put them in a locked room together too.





No, I don't think it is. But then again, I don't think drinking alcohol ever serves a valuable purpose even if you are of legal age.
It depends on how responsible the child is, the relationship between parent and child, etc. My mom bought me my first alcoholic drink the weekend I graduated high school, and occasionally throughout time until I turned 21. I am now 23 and I might drink once a month (if that).
yes i think its ok to let a 16yr old to drink one drink on occasion so when they turn 18yrs they dont go out and binge drink which is dangerous if letting them drink when younger around adults they dont see that alcohol is not a big deal and they want need to go spastic when they turn 18


in australia they get there licence at 17 on there p and they are alowed to drive with out an adult so im scared that they will drink and drive so i want to tech them that alcohol is not a big deal they dont need to drink
I think it depends on the situation. I've heard of parents letting their kids try beer when they're young because they keep asking ... only to find that it's disgusting and they never drink again. If they're older and enjoy it, then I would say no if they live in the US. It's against the law here, and I think it's the parents' responsibility to set an example for their children of respect for our laws.
i think if they're 16 or 17 and it's christmas or new years, half a wine glass spritzed with lemonade won't kill them.





but any younger than that and i wouldn't really let them. my parents didn't let me drink unless it was a special occasion.





for example they bought a champagne bottle when i did really well in exams.





and when i was 17 i got a drink at new years.





before that? no dice lol.








*edit* browneyedgirl makes a good point. maturity's really important in this.
Hell, most of 'em drink anyways. It's better a teen learn to drink from their parents than from a friend out to have a good time. At least with their parents they can learn about limits, responsibilities with drinking and how to say enough is enough. They're going to learn somewhere else if their parents don't teach them, and that somewhere else might not be from the best source...
We were allowed at family functions to have a sip or two of wine or beer, but that's about it.





Of course as most teenagers, my sisters and I would drink with friends at parties or just the odd weekend, but our parents never purchased any alcohol for us, nor did they know about it-
If you're Irish like my family. (: Hahaha j/k.





I don't even see why it matters, unless they're driving.





But I would say it's appropriate mostly at holidays or family gatherings. As long as they don't get behind the wheel. (:
If they live in a country and culture where it is legal and acceptable I would yes it is appropriate if they decide to do so. Where I live it illegal under age 21. So I would say it is inappropriate if you live here.
Only where it's legal. At least, that's what my rule is. I'm 18 and I refuse to drink unless it's legal in the country that I'm in. I don't when when I'm in the US, but Europe and Mexico are fair game.
I'm Catholic and we have wine at Mass. Only a sip. I might let my kids have a little champagne at Christmas and New Years. My parents did that with me when I was about 15 or so. I wouldn't much earlier than that though.
Never. But sometimes you understand that the child would like to try these things. I suggest a sparkling water with canberry juice or you might go as far as letting them try non alcoholic beer. there they tasted it, done.
My mom lets me drink wine every once in a while.


It's good for the body.


But I know she wouldn't let me if She didn't think i was mature enough to handle it or was to use it irresponsibly.
I understand that is the rule in a lot of foreign country's. wine with dinner is the thing, not ';recreational';.I know my neighbors in L.A. used to make their own wine. They were from Sicily.
every person has there own option's, but i wouldn't until 18 and only 18 because we have 18 year old defending our country, if they can go to war and be willing to die for us then when they get home they can have some drinks!
Yes. Good to show them how alcohol goes with dinner and how adults use it responsibly. I often tried all sorts with my parents.
I really think it depends on the age, culture, how responsible the TEEN is. I would say 16 and older is ok, one drink!!
No. It is part of some countries culture, but the parents are watching the children , how much they drink
I don't think it is appropriate for a kid under the age of 18 to drink even if it is a sip. A parent shouldn't allow there kid to drink at a young age.

What do you do when your parent doesn't care about what you have to say?

i try and talk to my mom (don't have a dad) but she always seem to say im wrong or judge me due to my age (14) i try and just get her opinion but if she disagrees with me she gets mad when i tell her and cuts the conversation off. she just doesn't seem to understand so i asked her why doesn't she try and she said she doesn't want to because she doesn't care. i want to talk to her because she is my mom and the only adult i know really. what should i do?What do you do when your parent doesn't care about what you have to say?
wow...talk to your counselur at skool...maybe she is carrying to much and doesnt know the things she says to yu sometimes...im sorry your going thru this...but i hope that she lightens up her ways and cares more about yu =]///good luck sweetieWhat do you do when your parent doesn't care about what you have to say?
Ask her if she remembers being your age and how was her relationship with her mother did she do the same to her as she is doing to you? If that doesn't work ask her seriously if she would rather you seek advice else where and risk getting the wrong info? Or would she rather not do anything and when the time comes that she wants you and needs your help she will have pushed you so far away that you never will be there because that's what she has taught you? Or you'll just tell her you disagree that she needs you and don't have time to help her? All mothers get old and usually need some assistance from their children/ she is no different ? Will it be to late for the both of you by that time?
Your mom is doing this because it makes her feel like the boss. She can end the conversation like that. She likes the feeling of power. She can simply use the fact that she's the mom to win every single argument.





A person like that isn't a good person to talk to. Being an adult does not make you qualified to give good advice.

Places that do peircings without a parent in newyork?

well i want to get my lip peirced some time this week.


is there anywhere in newyork that does peircings without parents being there? and without a person 21 or over?


Places that do peircings without a parent in newyork?
exactly how young are you








.... you can try Jamaica Ave on colli block(165th street) if ur from queens u noe wat im talking about .... if not try the village .... but agen if ur like 12 no wheres gunna do it most places its like 16 and up

Is a divorced parent allowed to give a cell phone to a minor, disregarding the objections of the other parent?

Joint legal custody.Is a divorced parent allowed to give a cell phone to a minor, disregarding the objections of the other parent?
Yes.





However, if there is joint physical custody as well, then the other parent can take the phone away while he/she has physical custody.Is a divorced parent allowed to give a cell phone to a minor, disregarding the objections of the other parent?
Legally, yes. For the sake of family harmony, though, it would probably be better for him or her to talk to the other parent. The above poster is also right to say that the other parent can take the phone away when the child is at their house.
Yes, it sometimes happen. The parents should be able to communicate all issues when it comes to the kids. Both parents should come to an agreement on things like that. Discuss your concerns with your ex-spouse and hopefully this habit will not repeat itself. Good Luck . . . .

What can you do as a parent to promote your childs development in the following?

areas: cognitive development, social and emotional development, personality development, sex-role development, moral development, creativity?What can you do as a parent to promote your childs development in the following?
Crayons.


....


In all of those fields.What can you do as a parent to promote your childs development in the following?
Cognitive: I read to her. I teach her letters. I sing songs with her.


Social: She's in daycare and is always around other children


Emotional: I be a stable role model for her, I praise her constantly


Personality: I let her have free will and give her choices.


Sex-role: She has a mommy and a daddy. That's it for now.


Moral: I teach her to share %26amp; treat others as she likes to be treated


Creativity: I give her blocks and crayons

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What can I do with old parent magazines being crafty,I dont want to throw away I collect them.?

Just thought I would ask! Has anyone did something creative, for gifts or something?What can I do with old parent magazines being crafty,I dont want to throw away I collect them.?
if you have children old enough to do little crafts you could cut out letters and pictures and let them use a gluestick to glue them to computer/white paper and create a picture or collage =]What can I do with old parent magazines being crafty,I dont want to throw away I collect them.?
Get some bristol Board or a Presentation board and make a large collage using glue, sparkles, letters, pictures, colors etc. out of the magazines... Find somethings out of the magazines that truly portray who you are to add some personal flare, you can also choose the board of your choice of any color.
donate some to a women's shelter. The ladies there often have young children and could use what your magazines suggest.





Also arts and crafts, well collage is the most common use for magazines. But some people glue them together, paint or cover them with contact paper and make door stops.

How do you deal with a parent who always wants to give parently advice?

He means well, but he is a poor communicator, takes an hour to say the same stuff he's been saying for years. I always feel worse after our talks. No I am not a criminal or a welfare receipient. Not a Fortune 500 CEO either.How do you deal with a parent who always wants to give parently advice?
Tell him dad speed it up! Actually you should be happy cos he actually cares enough to take the time up to an hour just to talk to you and advice you. One day you will miss your one hour talk with him so whenever he tries to give you advice, make it into a topic of conversation between the both of you. Have fun!How do you deal with a parent who always wants to give parently advice?
Haha, I hate getting lectures from my parents, but 98% they are right. My mom is cut-throat and to the point, but ya just gotta take it. Parent's want what's best no matter how old you are. They may repeat the same stuff and it may mean nothing to you, but THEY feel better telling you. Who knows, you may actually need their input and if you told them you didn't want to hear it, they may not tell you out of spite.
He cares enough about you to at least let you know he cares even if it takes a little longer for him to let you know.





Be grateful for that.
Well, be thankful he loves you, and realize you'll be old someday. Maybe he needs to feel useful. Hope you have patience with him. He sounds caring, anyway. :)
wow,,


you are lucky ,,


be gratuful to him
i listen and i learn:)

Would you say your Spouse or Life partner is much like your opposite sex parent? ?

It is said we often choose a mate based on these qualities, just wondering your thoughts?Would you say your Spouse or Life partner is much like your opposite sex parent? ?
I always respected my father for his ethics and honesty as I do my husband. I also love their humor.





They both worked very hard and very up front - what you see with the both of them is what you got.





My Father passed away when he was 68 - my Husband is still kicking but can't do all the things he use to do.





I love them both and so do our kid's.





The problem is . . . our daughter expect their husbands to be - just like their Father.





My husband is - just like my Father was.





Good question.


DeeJay.Would you say your Spouse or Life partner is much like your opposite sex parent? ?
I am the current target, so hope to see you around! resi, all I ask is being removed...It gets old...Good to see all of you! Especially You Dee Jay!

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Resi, I don't know what to say - do you mean you are actually being removed? If so I just plain ticks me off. I don't hardly ask - most are removed. I do hope to see you around. You are a tried and true fiend. DeeJay.

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No, my spouse does not have any similarity to my late father. He


does suddenly have similarities to his late father the older he be-


comes, at this point in time. I chose my mate, for his strong


character, and masculine demeanor, and for his ability to make


sound decisions, knowing what he wanted out of life. I did not want


a 'father figure', but I have known women who have, and played,


'daddys' little girl' to the max. Then years later, as their father figure


aged, they had wandering eyes for younger men..


And promptly left the older man, and married the younger ones.


This can be devastating to an elderly man, whos' young wife takes


off with their child and finds a new relationship with someone in her


own age group. Usually the young wife becomes more active with


outdoor sports and changes her lifestyle to fit that of the younger


man, and leaves her former sedate life behind. Which leaves the


older ex husband visitation rights to see his child in an often awk-


ward situation. But life goes on. And often they can come out of


their estrangement as friends when the dust settles, for the sake


of their child, or children. Life is far from fair.
Yes, psychologists have discovered that most people choose a mate who is very similar to their opposite sex parent. This stems from the fact that we, as children felt comfortable with our parents. So, if essence it's the comfort factor that draws us to our mate's qualities which happen to be similar to your parents' and familiar to you. I suggest you read more Freud, it can give you some good insight.
I would say my partner of 11 years is a lot like my father. He's slow to anger, considerate, kind, has a lot of people that really like and respect him. I have read that people often choose a partner a lot like mom, but not in my case. My mother makes me want to tear out my hair - why would I choose someone like that? She is very critical of me and my friends. She can find fault with a sales clerk or a UPS man. I have always chosen partners/spouses that are not critical of me and other people, and have the same qualities of dad. In my youth, I always sought out men who looked liked dad, light eyes, blonde or light brown hair, slim. After half a century it only matters if they have the same qualities that my father has.
Years ago psychologists, etc., used to believe that. Now they are thinking you actually marry the parent with whom you had the most problems -- you are still trying to solve that dilemma. So if you are female and had a controlling mom, you are apt to marry a controlling man. If it was your dad who was controlling, you are still apt to marry a controlling man. Same thing for a man -- he'll marry a controlling woman, still trying to solve the problem with the parent.
I'm not sure that theory is 100% true. My husband is much different from my father in temperament, personality and drinking habits. I do realize Dad influenced my preference for men who are physically strong, mechanically inclined and not ashamed to work with their hands as well as their heads. None of those manicured, suit %26amp; tie wearing wheeler-dealers for me. Dad's faults also influenced me in my choice of a man to marry. No drinkers or ';gotta hang out with the guys'; types for me, ever.





Thanks for an interesting question. It made me stop and think about it.
I must not fit that mold. I am more like my paternal Grandpa and dad and my wife is almost exactly like her mom. ( Although she married me and I am much like her dad was)





So, maybe my wife married her';dad'; but I think I married my ';mother-in-law';. Think if it applies at all, more so to my wife than me and my wife adored her dad so I didn't see any problem there.





My mom is nothing like my wife and vice versa.
Nope, totally the opposite, thankfully! Because all the men in my family were tall I always pictured myself with a tall man - and one with black hair and blue eyes. Well, my husband has the blue eyes, but he's 1/4 inch shorter than I am and bald. But, the other differences between my father and my husband are vast. Father - pathological liar. Husband - the most honest person I ever met. Father - abandoned us when I was four. Husband - well, you would have to kill him to keep him away from his kids. I could go on, but the short answer is that I married the total opposite of my father.
I think in a way thats kind of true, I haven't really studied it BUT I have heard about it a lot. For example how girls are likely to marry men whom are like their fathers and boys their mothers. Like for example sometimes I notice little things in my ex's which are similar to my fathers that I dislike COMPLETELY!!! Plus I have noticed my last ex's mother was a bit controlling and when I dated him I acted a lot like her for some reason ? 0_o





I wish I really knew?
You darn right ! My opposite gender parent was female and being healthy and with my head on straight I sought a female and have been happy ever since. I found one young enough so I could finish raising her myself. Funny that my Sweetie makes the same claim. Very funny indeed.
In some ways, yes. He's like my dad. Ug!





In some ways, I'm like his mom too. I would have denied it to my death a few years ago...





But, we like the same things. Dislike the same things...





Again, let me just say...UG!
Yes is some ways. Because my parents had a really good marriage and I wanted the same good values as they had. I also was lucky to have married my best friend and soul mate.
Thank God no. My half sister spent her life looking for a man like daddy, she wanted daddy's approval and love and never got from her dad or the men she dated and the two different ones she married.
yes, i think so. we are likely to marry someone who bears some characteristics that left an impact in our life, be it positive or negative.
Not at all! My father was (RIP daddy) small in stature, soft spoken and could fix ANYTHING. My husband is big, loud and mechanically inept, lol.





BTW, I am NOTHING like his mom either (shudder).
He is entirely opposite.
Definitely.
Not really, but I think that he thought I was like his mom when we married. He found out pretty soon that that wasn't the case.
Mine are the opposite in many ways.
No. My father was a pedophile and so are 2 of my 4 brothers


My husband is happy,clean and kind...more like mom :) but not as likely to look the other way on anything :)
unfortunately, no.
I think that's logical...maybe that's why I prefer Native men because my dad was!!!
Nope. My partner is kind. My father was selfish and cruel.
Yes he is very much so.
I married my soul mate, not her Mum.

How do you write a wedding invitation if the groom and the bride's parent's are hosting?

I have my brides do it a couple of different ways...either the parents of (bride) and (groom) invite you to witness the marriage of their children...or... as (bride) and (groom) unite in life together their parents (bride's) and (groom's) invite you.... there are number of different ways...trying checking http://www.invitesgalore.com/wedding-inv鈥?/a> for some more suggestionsHow do you write a wedding invitation if the groom and the bride's parent's are hosting?
The invitation wording has nothing to do with who is paying. Having both sets of parents' names on it is the respectful thing to do - it just tells who he is the son of.... and who she is the daughter of....How do you write a wedding invitation if the groom and the bride's parent's are hosting?
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mr and mrs..so-n-so and mr and mrs so-n-so ..request your attendance at the wedding of their children..





The parents of so-and so and so-n-so request your presence


the families of So-N- So would like to invite you to the union of children
Mine read:


Mr. Barry %26amp; Mrs. Mary Smith


%26amp;


Mr. John %26amp; Mrs. Mary Doe


request the honour of your presence


at the marriage of their children


Jessie Smith


%26amp;


David Doe
We had that scenario for our wedding, too. We used this:





Mr. and Mrs. (bride鈥檚 dad)





and





Mr. and Mrs. (groom鈥檚 dad)





request the honor of your presence





in the marriage of their children





(bride鈥檚 full name)





and





(groom鈥檚 full name)





(day of week), the xxth of (month)





two thousand and (year number)
Mr %26amp; Mrs. Joe and Pam Flynt (bride's parents) and Mr %26amp; Mrs. Frank and Sally Cruz cordially invite you to the union of their children.





thats just an example you can switch it around, use just first names, it all depends on how formal you want your invitation,
brides name and grooms name together w/ their families or mr and mrs brides parents and mr and mrs grooms parent invite you to the marriage of their children...

Is it ever appropriate for a parent to let their kid (under 18 yrs of age) drink alcoholic beverages?

I don't think it is appropriate. I began drinking when I was 16, and really didn't understand its effects fully for years. I put myself in some stupid situations. I think it sends the message that it is ok, and it really isn't. I think a kid should know himself well before they do mind altering substances of any kind.Is it ever appropriate for a parent to let their kid (under 18 yrs of age) drink alcoholic beverages?
Compared to other industrialized nations we are actually a fairly conservative, some would even say ';puritanical';, society. In places where there are no real enforced drinking ages and drinking is a more socially normative the rates of alcoholism are actually much lower.





Personally, drinking was never a big deal in my mother's house and my siblings and I all have very socially appropriate and healthy attitudes towards drinking. It just wasn't a ';big deal';. So, I would say ';Yes, in a healthy environment where there are healthy role models and open discussion and honesty about addictions.';Is it ever appropriate for a parent to let their kid (under 18 yrs of age) drink alcoholic beverages?
As long as its one drink and with your parents then i think its fine after a certain age. My mom would let us have a glass of wine, or champagne every now and then. I think it makes it so that kids dont see alcohol as this amazing thing that your parents wouldn't allow. I think becuase of my mom letting me drink every now and that its not that big of a deal and no right of passage that i never drank much as an adult. On my 21st birthday i had two drinks. My husband on the other had was told as an child that alchol was a horrible thing and so bad for you. He went to party's some times and drank. When he turned 21 he was so excited to have one drink that was legal. So no i don't think its wrong as long as it one drink every now and then with the parents only.
Get drunk: No


Have a sip: Sure





The few responsible drinkers I know were raised in homes where their parents let them drink responsibly as teenagers.





I know a few people who seem to be totally against alcohol. And you might accuse me of being borderline this way. Why? My mom did a good job of sheltering me from it, and the only times I have really seen it were in bad situations.





But I know even more people who can't handle alcohol responsibly. They were sneaking into it as kids (under 10 years old) and many were getting drunk with their parents by the time they were 18.





Anyhow, from what I have seen - teaching kids how to drink responsibly works best. And if my daughter really wants to try something when she's like 14 or 16 years old, I will let her. But I will also remind her how letting it get out of hand messed up her dad's life. (He is alive, but he is not very involved with our family.)
My husband and I have talked and talked and talked about this one and the decision we've come to is no. There's no reason your child needs to have alcohol before they are of leagal age. When I was a young teen I would have out with my older cousins who would allow me to drink*without my parents permision, and my parents would also now and then let me have a sip of their drink, never moe than a sip. But I think it's important to set an example for your children. I can remember back on the times my parents had a few too many and it really embarassed me and made me angry and ashamed of them. As an adult looking back, I think it was really inappropriate for them to be that way in front of me, all the while telling me to never drink. So as a parent, we decided we don't want our children to ever see us that way. and if they never see us that way it will give them a little more conviction themselves. However I an not nieve and know that anything can happen and they might choose to drink when they get older before they are of legal age, and that's a bridge we will have to cross if we get to it.
I think a sip is okay here and there if it's 18 plus. In the state of Texas you can drink with your legal guardian present or if you're married and under 21. I was 20 years old *3 days before my 21st birthday* and out to dinner with my grandparents, husband, and son (he was only a few months old at that point) and the waitress refused to serve me because I wasn't old enough even though I'd been drinking occasionally since we were married (over a year prior).
Lets be fair - kids are going to drink. We can't stop them. I'm a teenager myself, and I drink.


I think the most important thing is to educate your children about the effects of alcohol, and say that they can drink on the occasion in your home, or in the home of a close friend. They may not drink in front of others who are not allowed to drink.


I recommend starting a group between your child's friends and coming up with a battle plan for alcohol. In our community it's really helped to know that we can go to one of the homes and have a beer as long as we're responsible. It's like we don't have to hide anything anymore.





Education is the key. Also, it helps if all of the parents are taking the same stance on it.


But please, I stress upon you, that if your child wants to drink, they will, and it is much safer for them to do it in your home where you can keep an eye on them.
You know there is so much debate to this literally. The face that this kids see thier friends do it, the whole peer pressure thing. It can be hard but remember you need to be there for your kids. It will come down to two things either you can be a cool parent and let them drink and be supervised or they can go behind your back.
If the parent wants to teach the child how to drink responsibly BEFORE they reach the age of legally being able to 'drink themselves to death' then yes. I think it's very appropriate.





I let my children drink under my supervision from the age of 15, so they could experiment with the effects of alcohol and learn their own limits.
I think it depends on the culture- some people drink wine quite often (and Catholics do the communion thing at mass) so it isn't a big deal for a teen to have a glass of wine with dinner or whatever. And maybe a sip of champagne on New Years or something wouldn't be a big deal, but I wouldn't offer my kid alcohol until she's of legal age.
If the child is 16/17/18, and it's a holiday or family gathering and the adults are having a little bit of wine, etc. i see no problem in letting the teenager have a little.





in fact, i think it teaches kids how to drink responsibly. my dad did this with me. on occasion when i was with him, he let me have a sip. but i knew if he was not there, alcohol was off limits. and i stuck by that rule. my aunt was an alcholic and i knew first hand that i did not want to become one.
sure, Im in the US under age and I drink Once a month or just on special days.





My parents don't care


Im muslim and Im not supposed to drink or it would be considered a sin, but since my parents smoke they have sinned to and don't give a crap.





But for a 10yr old or younger it might be considered inappropriate, unless its for dinner or something.
Sure. Give them cigarettes and let them party until dawn while you're at it. Oh, and introduce them to someone of the opposite sex and put them in a locked room together too.





No, I don't think it is. But then again, I don't think drinking alcohol ever serves a valuable purpose even if you are of legal age.
It depends on how responsible the child is, the relationship between parent and child, etc. My mom bought me my first alcoholic drink the weekend I graduated high school, and occasionally throughout time until I turned 21. I am now 23 and I might drink once a month (if that).
yes i think its ok to let a 16yr old to drink one drink on occasion so when they turn 18yrs they dont go out and binge drink which is dangerous if letting them drink when younger around adults they dont see that alcohol is not a big deal and they want need to go spastic when they turn 18


in australia they get there licence at 17 on there p and they are alowed to drive with out an adult so im scared that they will drink and drive so i want to tech them that alcohol is not a big deal they dont need to drink
I think it depends on the situation. I've heard of parents letting their kids try beer when they're young because they keep asking ... only to find that it's disgusting and they never drink again. If they're older and enjoy it, then I would say no if they live in the US. It's against the law here, and I think it's the parents' responsibility to set an example for their children of respect for our laws.
i think if they're 16 or 17 and it's christmas or new years, half a wine glass spritzed with lemonade won't kill them.





but any younger than that and i wouldn't really let them. my parents didn't let me drink unless it was a special occasion.





for example they bought a champagne bottle when i did really well in exams.





and when i was 17 i got a drink at new years.





before that? no dice lol.








*edit* browneyedgirl makes a good point. maturity's really important in this.
Hell, most of 'em drink anyways. It's better a teen learn to drink from their parents than from a friend out to have a good time. At least with their parents they can learn about limits, responsibilities with drinking and how to say enough is enough. They're going to learn somewhere else if their parents don't teach them, and that somewhere else might not be from the best source...
We were allowed at family functions to have a sip or two of wine or beer, but that's about it.





Of course as most teenagers, my sisters and I would drink with friends at parties or just the odd weekend, but our parents never purchased any alcohol for us, nor did they know about it-
If you're Irish like my family. (: Hahaha j/k.





I don't even see why it matters, unless they're driving.





But I would say it's appropriate mostly at holidays or family gatherings. As long as they don't get behind the wheel. (:
If they live in a country and culture where it is legal and acceptable I would yes it is appropriate if they decide to do so. Where I live it illegal under age 21. So I would say it is inappropriate if you live here.
Only where it's legal. At least, that's what my rule is. I'm 18 and I refuse to drink unless it's legal in the country that I'm in. I don't when when I'm in the US, but Europe and Mexico are fair game.
I'm Catholic and we have wine at Mass. Only a sip. I might let my kids have a little champagne at Christmas and New Years. My parents did that with me when I was about 15 or so. I wouldn't much earlier than that though.
Never. But sometimes you understand that the child would like to try these things. I suggest a sparkling water with canberry juice or you might go as far as letting them try non alcoholic beer. there they tasted it, done.
My mom lets me drink wine every once in a while.


It's good for the body.


But I know she wouldn't let me if She didn't think i was mature enough to handle it or was to use it irresponsibly.
I understand that is the rule in a lot of foreign country's. wine with dinner is the thing, not ';recreational';.I know my neighbors in L.A. used to make their own wine. They were from Sicily.
every person has there own option's, but i wouldn't until 18 and only 18 because we have 18 year old defending our country, if they can go to war and be willing to die for us then when they get home they can have some drinks!
Yes. Good to show them how alcohol goes with dinner and how adults use it responsibly. I often tried all sorts with my parents.
I really think it depends on the age, culture, how responsible the TEEN is. I would say 16 and older is ok, one drink!!
No. It is part of some countries culture, but the parents are watching the children , how much they drink
I don't think it is appropriate for a kid under the age of 18 to drink even if it is a sip. A parent shouldn't allow there kid to drink at a young age.

What do you do when your parent doesn't care about what you have to say?

i try and talk to my mom (don't have a dad) but she always seem to say im wrong or judge me due to my age (14) i try and just get her opinion but if she disagrees with me she gets mad when i tell her and cuts the conversation off. she just doesn't seem to understand so i asked her why doesn't she try and she said she doesn't want to because she doesn't care. i want to talk to her because she is my mom and the only adult i know really. what should i do?What do you do when your parent doesn't care about what you have to say?
wow...talk to your counselur at skool...maybe she is carrying to much and doesnt know the things she says to yu sometimes...im sorry your going thru this...but i hope that she lightens up her ways and cares more about yu =]///good luck sweetieWhat do you do when your parent doesn't care about what you have to say?
Your mom is doing this because it makes her feel like the boss. She can end the conversation like that. She likes the feeling of power. She can simply use the fact that she's the mom to win every single argument.





A person like that isn't a good person to talk to. Being an adult does not make you qualified to give good advice.
Ask her if she remembers being your age and how was her relationship with her mother did she do the same to her as she is doing to you? If that doesn't work ask her seriously if she would rather you seek advice else where and risk getting the wrong info? Or would she rather not do anything and when the time comes that she wants you and needs your help she will have pushed you so far away that you never will be there because that's what she has taught you? Or you'll just tell her you disagree that she needs you and don't have time to help her? All mothers get old and usually need some assistance from their children/ she is no different ? Will it be to late for the both of you by that time?

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Places that do peircings without a parent in newyork?

well i want to get my lip peirced some time this week.


is there anywhere in newyork that does peircings without parents being there? and without a person 21 or over?


Places that do peircings without a parent in newyork?
exactly how young are you








.... you can try Jamaica Ave on colli block(165th street) if ur from queens u noe wat im talking about .... if not try the village .... but agen if ur like 12 no wheres gunna do it most places its like 16 and up

Is a divorced parent allowed to give a cell phone to a minor, disregarding the objections of the other parent?

Joint legal custody.Is a divorced parent allowed to give a cell phone to a minor, disregarding the objections of the other parent?
Yes.





However, if there is joint physical custody as well, then the other parent can take the phone away while he/she has physical custody.Is a divorced parent allowed to give a cell phone to a minor, disregarding the objections of the other parent?
Legally, yes. For the sake of family harmony, though, it would probably be better for him or her to talk to the other parent. The above poster is also right to say that the other parent can take the phone away when the child is at their house.
Yes, it sometimes happen. The parents should be able to communicate all issues when it comes to the kids. Both parents should come to an agreement on things like that. Discuss your concerns with your ex-spouse and hopefully this habit will not repeat itself. Good Luck . . . .

In the state of texas what parent gets the child when they seperate?

Neither parent automatically gets custody when they separate; if the parents can't agree on custody, the courts generally award custody on a ';best interests of the child'; standard, and that appears to be the case in Texas. It is true that courts generally find that it is in the best interests of very small children to be with their mothers if possible, but they are not supposed to give preference to either parent solely because of gender.





If there are outstanding warrants for his arrest, he is not likely to want to show up in Texas and bring a custody suit, but I don't think it would legally bar him from doing so, unless of course he is actually arrested and incarcerated. Depending on what the warrants are for and any other criminal history he may have, if he does sue for custody you can use that to argue that the children would be better off staying with you.In the state of texas what parent gets the child when they seperate?
Unless there is a court order...whoever has custody of the child has custody.


If your wife or hubby has the child and you want it ...and see it walking down the sidewalk..you can take the child.


It's a complete free for all in Texas until the court orders otherwiseIn the state of texas what parent gets the child when they seperate?
In 98% of the states, the mother always gets the child. Unless for certain reasons that are proved to the judge then it can go either way.
Hopefully, the better one if one is clearly unfit... but generally, with two people who are OK just splitting up, the mother traditionally keeps the children most of the time.
Usually the primary caregiver... the one that cooks, cleans, helps with homework ... etc.





Yup, you guessed it... mom.

Im interested in becoming a foster parent can anyone tell me the pros and cons and can i give a certain?

description of what im looking for? like under the age of 5 and a certain race or girl or boy?? and how much would i get per child? i live in tennessee...Im interested in becoming a foster parent can anyone tell me the pros and cons and can i give a certain?
Hi Samantha





Try re-posting this question in the adoption section. There are several ';regulars'; on that section that are, or have been, foster parents.





Good luck.Im interested in becoming a foster parent can anyone tell me the pros and cons and can i give a certain?
Yes, you can give a certain description of what you're looking for. You'll have to take a federally mandated 30-hour class first. Part of that class is to get you to examine what you are best suited for or can realistically handle (age, gender, race, special needs, behavioral issues, etc.). The class will teach you something about the rules of fostering, the behaviors you are likely to deal with, and more. They also use the class to weed out people who shouldn't be foster parents or who are just in it for the money.





The amount of money you received depends on your state and the age of the child. They get Medicaid to cover medical expenses. If the child is under 5, they get WIC coupons to help pay for things like formula or milk, cereal, and other things. You'll get payment from the state to cover clothing and such for the child.





Cons? You'll learn how terribly broken our system is. You'll be frustrated by case workers who are over-loaded with cases and can't put in the time they should. You'll be shocked at cases where children are put back into what seem to be clearly dangerous situations. You'll be horrified at the things that you learn that people can do to children. You'll lose a lot of privacy as social workers, therapists, and others traipse in and out of your home regularly, dig into your finances and every aspect of your life. You'll be busier, with lots of doctors' visits, therapists' visits, social workers' visits (some planned and some unannounced). You'll likely deal with children who are confused when the court arranges visits with family and who act out because of it. You'll find that lack of communication is a big problem in the system. You'll be likely to lose sleep and have to clean up bigger messes and deal with worse behavior than you'd see in your own children. You'll deal with hurting, angry children who are afraid to get too close.....


but you will find that you can slowly win them over and teach them to trust and love if you have them in your home for long enough. But the biggest con is that you'll grow to love children who may be sent back home or to another home; your heart will feel broken (but you'll have the knowledge that you helped them for a while to get you through it all)....





Pros? You'll be helping a child. You'll feel good about yourself for helping out someone vulnerable and in need. You'll see the children grow physically and emotionally; you'll likely see them get healthier and happier--though it may take a long time to recover. You'll have an impact on the children for the rest of their lives, even if they are only with you a short time and are too young to remember any details of the time spent with you.





The first step is to call around and find an agency that licenses foster homes and find out when they'll be having their next set of classes....
omgsh yay! good for you!





yes, you can choose what age range, sex and so much more! go on the DCF website, they will give you all of your information.





My fosterbrother was 17 when we fostered him, he got a 1000 check each month but part of it went to a plan, other money was not allowed to be taken out until he was 18. A percentage of the money he got went towards doc appt. You do not get paid, however many parents do use the childs money with out consent.





Fostering a child is costly on your part, however you can ask for refunds, like if you take the child to a doctor, you can make sure they have medicade, thats their own insurance paid by the government. (you are still paying through taxes)





you also have to pay for the classes it takes to get certified. Which rounded up to be around 300 $. However, we took more classes just for self purposes.





Some of the children in DCF have been mentally titled (such as depressed, bipolar, blah blah) so make sure you do research on the child, or put in ur resume you do not want such a cause, for examample, Bipolar).





You will have a person come to your home out of the blue once in a few months just to check up on things, which i found very agrivating because of when they would come (usually late in the day so you would be home [around 8ish])





People who have fostered can adopt easier.





The child leaves after such a period of time, unless you adopt them.


You do get attatched, VERY. Do not foster if you cant afford a child for the rest of your life.











I wish you the best of luck!

When a child is receving a monthly check from her disable parent how is that money to be used? The parent gets

a check as well. There is the parent, two other siblings (adults) and the minor child, (16 yrs). Does the child get any cash money for her personal use? Or does all her checks goes to the entire household, including personal bills of the others?When a child is receving a monthly check from her disable parent how is that money to be used? The parent gets
There are no laws controling how the welfare checks are spent, it is up to the family. The childs check is to cover their living expenses, housing, food, etc. I would think that at 16 the child would receive some as an allowance, just as a child of working parents would.When a child is receving a monthly check from her disable parent how is that money to be used? The parent gets
From what I understand this money is to be used for support of the minor child. Much like child support from a divorced parent, it is used to pay bills, buy clothes for them, pay for a car...if they are driven to events or school in it, anything that the child uses. Of course, if it pays for mom's alcohol or crack habit that don't work.

What's the worst thing a parent could do or say to their child?

The worst thing a parent can say to a child is to hint that they weren't needed... like my friends mom goes to her '; my body was hot before YOU came!'; and things like that. and trying to compete with them... if they're girls. Another thing is like to keep telling your kids to go away. It hurts, really. Also using profanity or hitting them for no reason, and telling them to go away. That is physically, mentally, and emotionally hurting a kid.What's the worst thing a parent could do or say to their child?
I've had many horrible things said to me when I was a child. But the worst was when I was forced to choose between the two of them, and it was held against me all my life.


I chose my mother, because my father was having an adulterous relationship but my father, whom I'd always adored, never forgave me.What's the worst thing a parent could do or say to their child?
say: ';If it weren't for you....*fill in the rest*';








Do: Tell them all the family problems are his/her fault and that you don't want them around their siblings cause he/she isn't a good kid and will never amount to anything
any type of abuse..but honestly the worst things that could probably be said to a child would be that they werent wanted, they were a mistake, and that you dont love them.
Any kind of abuse! Telling the kid they're ugly, they're no good, not feeding them, hitting them. All of those are wrong and there are many more!
Call them degrading names....Make them feel as if they are less then what they really are.This sticks with them trust me!
abuse, any kind. broken promises ie we can go swimming next week and then they dont take them ...why build there hopes up for nothing? saying something hurtful ie ugly stupid, hate...
That they wish they were never born my grandpa said that to my dad when he was little...calling them a b*tch my mom called me that and it really hurt my feelings
Give away their child for adoption.
Make them feel unloved/unwanted.
I hate you


Your a ugly brat!


Go run away


Why don't you go to your friend's house and never come back.
abuse, telling the child they are worthless and talking down to them.
Calling them ugly or saying ';I hate you';, or saying ';Can't you do anything right?';.
tell them you hate them or not be there when they need you
I Hate YOU
i think all of us now whats right or not... just think about what would hurt you!
saying they wish u were never born and that u were an accident.
my dad once told my older brother that he was worthless

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What is the best advice a parent/teacher can ever give a student or teenager?

The answers might go into our student website http://school-teacher-student-motivation-resources-courses.com/studentselfhelp.htmlWhat is the best advice a parent/teacher can ever give a student or teenager?
Give consideration to what your goal is whether this is long term or short term. Find out factually from experts what you need to do to actually achieve this goal. Look at your current actions and decide whether you need to change anything in order to succeed and whether you are prepared to make these changes. If you are then make a plan on how and when you will make the changes, if not start to make new goals.What is the best advice a parent/teacher can ever give a student or teenager?
Be true to yourself, because no matter what might come your way, you will be the one constant. If you lose sight of who you are, you lose sight of everything.
Don't think you know it all. Don't immediately discount the advice that others may give. At least consider it to see if it has merit.
Form the movie Transformers..Capt Witwicky said..';No Sacrifies,No Victory'; work hard for the things you want to achieve..most important to all make GOd as the center of your life...
Talk full responsibility and consequences for all of your actions.
wait to have sex.


dont do drugs.


never fall into peer pressure.


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How do a single middle class parent get any childcare assistant.?

Based on my income I make too much money, however there is no way I can afford daycare. What should I do?How do a single middle class parent get any childcare assistant.?
Look harder, there are always situations available.





I'm not even in the middle class (upper, lower class) and I can afford daycare and don't qualify for anything but a very small ($25 a week) subsidy.





If you can't find a sitter you'll have to stay home until your child is old enough or you can afford it.How do a single middle class parent get any childcare assistant.?
You can't. In my state, even low income parents can't get childcare assistance. It is only available to certain groups, such as families transitioning off welfare.





The solution is to become creative to find an affordable solution. Start with family - can anyone babysit and when and what might they charge? Maybe a parent can watch your child enough that you only need part time daycare. Look for home daycares, they may be less expensive than centers. Look at you budget and see if there is anywhere you can tighten. If your child is old enough for Head Start, see if you qualify. Again, it would cut down on the amount of time he is at daycare and perhaps the cost. Do you know any stay at home parents who could watch your child? Any college students who could nanny for you part time?





Good luck.
First, if you cant pay child care, are you really middle class?





Next, there is a reason why you dont qualify even though you cant afford it... most of these programs use formulas from the 60s to calculate whether or not you qual... Formulas that today go unchanged because it works in favor of the benefits... FAR fewer people qualify than if an updated formula were used. In fact, if public benefits used an updated formula for determining the poverty line and which families qual, I think the estimate is something like half of the people that call themselves middle class would actually be below the poverty line.





Third.... Look for a stay at home mom... In home day care is all the rage right now. Some parents maximize it and bring in tons of money catering to different needs. Other moms are just looking for a lil bit of money to allow them to stay at home, and the charge cheep rates. There are some in my area that go as cheep as 30 and 40 a week for full time care. BUT, most of them will be unlicensed (and legally so if they are only watching a couple of kids) so make certain that you do all of your homework on the providor.





OR, you could do just that yourself. Work from the home and open a a day care. Offer the right services, you could make just as much as a full time out of the house job, even with being legally licensed and paying taxes.
I know exactly how your feel. I am a single mother who works 2 jobs while going to school and finding affordable daycare has always been a struggle. Look for someone in your area who babysits in their home. They usually do not charge as much as a day care. Find a stay at home mom who may be looking to make some extra money on the side that would be willing to help you. You can also find other single parents who need help with childcare and trade off watching each others children.
Get child support order and or shop around and find someone you can aford. Or get a lower paying job to get day care assistance. Move in with your parents to save on rent to pay for day care








or here is a novel idea before giving birth you should have thought about that and if you couldn't do it then you should not of had your baby
If you have time to plan ahead, look into dependent care sayings accounts. You can save a couple thousand a year with these and their tax free benefits.





Look into in-home licensed daycares versus centers, they are often much less, and your child gets the benefit of interacting with older children.
I would look in your area for an at home sitter. I do that and I only charge 20 a day. We are also more flexible with hours. If the babysitter is unlicensed she can't have more then 6 kids, so the chances of your baby getting sick are less then in a daycare where they can have 12 infants in one room. Good luck!
The way the system is set up, it isn't easy to climb up and improve yourself. Once they have you all the way you can find all the help you need if you use it. If you just need a little hand getting to the next rung, your on your own.
I'm almost in the same boat. Daycare for my unborn baby will be 195 a week! I don't think there's much help for the middle class in situations like this, unfortunately. But, if you find some...please let me know.
try going to a YWCA or take advantage of community day care centers, Church Day care centers or public school daycare.





if that does not help try contacting 4c's
Literally nowhere, unless you fabricate (not recommended or condoned, just using an example).
first you learn to spell





then you look into 4C's


or


ask local churches if they have low cost child care

Can a child be adopted by the steparent without the consent of one biological parent who refuses to sign?

The biological father is stationed overseas and is afraid something will be done without his consent- the biological mother and stepfather have already began the adoption process- they know where the father is and have already gotten his answer as ';no'; to the adoption but are still persistent about matter- What rights does the biological father have and what can he do from overseas?Can a child be adopted by the steparent without the consent of one biological parent who refuses to sign?
It depends on the state laws where you live. For the most correct answer, you MUST consult an attorney licensed in your state.





Since the biological father is stationed overseas, the Soldier's and Sailor's Relief act also can come into play. He can delay any action on this (if he obtains counsel promptly and uses the law) until he returns from his overseas deployment.





In SOME states, if the biological father has had no contact, and has paid no support, then regardless of his consent, a court can determine that his consent is not necessary. However, that does not appear to be the case here. You are, by your own admission, aware of where the biological father is. If you fail to inform the court of this, and thus fail to give him an opportunity to object, you have not only committed fraud on the court, but the adoption can be overturned, causing even more turmoil to the child.





I hope you have a good family law attorney. He/she can advise you how to best proceed. Regardless of how you proceed, I really hope you don't try and trash the rights of a serviceman who can't properly defend while he is not in the US.Can a child be adopted by the steparent without the consent of one biological parent who refuses to sign?
They would have to have the parent who ( does not sign) declared as unfit. And the burden of proof would fall on the mother and stepfather. This is not easy to obtain as the judge would want proof. Lots of proof!.


Such as non-support. No contact with child. etc.


If I were the father, tell him to protect his rights , before he leaves the country, by contacting a lawyer. Or if he is already overseas, write to a lawyer , where this might go to court.They can take care of it,until he can get back and protect himself.


I have a friend who's husband is in jail, and they couldn't even take away his parental rights, with out his o.k.
NO.. the other parent has to sign over thier parental rights.. the adoption can not be completed without this unless the first parent is deceased.. or has been proven unfit in a court.
This guy needs to talk to his CO, he has more rights while he is overseas than if he were stateside. The child should be getting an allotment, and I cannot imagine a lawyer that would handle it. If they lie on the adoption papers they are both facing criminal charges.
Normally if he is paying his child support, and if he says no,and the court knows where he is.





Normally the adoption will only happen if the bio father does not object.





The bio father would lose all vistation rights, and even any right to contact if they child is adopted.





He could see about filling an injunction to stop them from filing any papers for that.
Usually not, but see an attorney to be sure.
Get an attorney, it looks as if they figure they have rights because the child is not being properly cared for. and the courts may agree with them. Where is the mother, whom where they left with while he left to go overseas, what provisions were made for the care of the child. Where are his parents the biological grandparents in all this. THIS is going to court, he needs some help and fast. What rights does the step parents have over his child. Who are they and where is the mother of the child.
It shouldn't happen since the overseas parent would need to relinquish parental rights. However, if the court thinks he isn't responding to their summons or something like that, they might think he is just ignoring them, and decide to go ahead with the process. He needs to make sure the court knows where he is and he doesn't want the process to go through.
I doubt it. Talk to a lawyer.
call a friend of mine debbi, she can help you decide what kind of atty you/he will need. and it's a very affordable price monthly.


debbi 18664713782 or www.debbicarroll.com and tell her mark referred you
I don't know what he can do overseas, but I do not think the courts would allow this without:





a. his written consent





b. proving he is an unfit/absent parent by choice.





If he is not abusive, a drug addict, or in some other deplorable state I don't think it would be possible
If they know where he is at they have to tell the lawyer this. If he is overseas due to military reasons it will be a lot harder for the stepfather and mother to proceed at this time. If he is just over there then they can go on. Just because the biological father does not consent doesn't mean the child can't be adopted. The stepfather and mother will have to go in front of a judge and explain why they feel the stepfather should become the childs father. It is a little bit of a lengthy process, but it can be done no matter how the father feels.
as the parent of 3 adopted children, I can tell you that unless the biological parent gives up parental rights there is nothing you can do
I sure hope not.
Not usually but the biological father had better get himself representation in the court just to make sure that his rights are respected and the mother is not misleading it as to his disposition.
No, the step-parent cannot adopt a child without the consent of of one biological parent IF that biological parent has custody rights. The biological father can give up his parental rights, which would relinquish him of any responsibility to the child, and/or his rights could be taken away if he was proven to be unfit.


Only then can the child be adopted by the step-parent, because now the father's rights over the child do not exist.





A costly, lengthy court process would be needed if the father absolutely refuses to give up his rights, and the battle is likely not to be vistorious unless the father can be proven to be unfit or gives up under the enormous court cost and stress.
by the law no - but if they say they don't know where the dad is all they have to do is place a add in the news paper for 30 days and he could lose his rights and then the child could be adopted.that's how my step mom got me adopted said she didn't know where my mom was - ran the add in a paper where she didn't live
if he is overseas military he needs to contact legal for help to make sure nothing shady happens. if he isn't there they can claim anything. if he pays child support or has been active in the childs life they are gonna have a hard time to make an adoption fly without consent.





he should also contact their lawyer to make sure his wishes are not being neglected. if he tell the lawyer and he is denied his rights its that lawyers career.
No, the stepparent cannot adopt the child unless the biological parent gives up his rights.

What should you call a step parent? Are you meant to call them mom/dad or by their first name?

Well....you know:(if its a 'dad')(if not vise-versa)


A dad is the person who raised you,


not always the one who made you.





So, if he raised you, and took you as his own, then don't you think he earns the right to be called 'dad' ?





STAR!What should you call a step parent? Are you meant to call them mom/dad or by their first name?
I have step children...they called me ';Mom'; when they were younger and by my first name when they became older...they didn't live with us, just visits on the weekends and summers...


I think you should follow your intuition and call your step parent what you (and your step-parent) are most comfortable with


I think it would make a difference to me also if my ';original'; parent had passed away or not....i.e. when my dad was alive he was the only one i called dad...now that he's passed on...i called my step-dad dad more often....


hope this is helpful :)What should you call a step parent? Are you meant to call them mom/dad or by their first name?
If you guys are close, comfortable with one another, have that bond, %26amp; don't mind calling them something you already have mom/dad would be suitable, if you guys just get along because you have to they'e first name would be appropriate. depends on your situation.
It depends on your age and the relationship you have with your birth parents. It also depends on the relationship you have with the step-parent.


My step-children call me by my first name but refer to their mother and I as their parents.
I am a step mom - Both girls call me by my first name but when talking to others about me or introducing me they call me mom or step mom depending on their mood... LOL Have had custody of them since 2nd and 5 grade and this was never an issue for us.
it depends on the parent. if you are desparet, ask them what they want you to call them. i call my step dad by his first name, and he doesn't seem to mind. just ask them, i'm sure they will appreatiate you taking the time to talk to them.
I believe you can call them what you wish whether it be mom/dad or by their names. I call my step-mom by her name. (But I still live with my Mom and it would be odd for me to call my step-mom mom as well)
I know some call them by their name, and others by mom/dad. It depends on how much trust there is and how much they earn whatever you call them.
I don't believe there are any hard and fast rules on this.


I think it should be something that is worked out between the child, and the step parent.
Well i call my step-mom by her first name, but i refer to her and my dad as my parents.

I live in Dallas a single parent my daughter can sing is there anyone that can give her free sing lesson?

need producer for my daughter she's 8 years old and can sing, she sings in the choir in the churchI live in Dallas a single parent my daughter can sing is there anyone that can give her free sing lesson?
wowI live in Dallas a single parent my daughter can sing is there anyone that can give her free sing lesson?
If that's really something SHE wants to do...you can search craigslist for singing lessons. Or maybe her school offers afterschool lessons?

How easy is it for a parent of a US citizen to get a visa if the child is still very young?

AAAAAA, wrong answer guys...listen to what she is asking....





RCS, if you have no status the child cannot apply for you until they are 18! Is this your only US relative that you can derive from? If so you must wait.How easy is it for a parent of a US citizen to get a visa if the child is still very young?
Children of minor age by a US citizen has an advantage of being granted a visa if the financial capacity to support the child is proven.How easy is it for a parent of a US citizen to get a visa if the child is still very young?
I would guess very easy. Such a person has a right to be here if he or she is the parent of an American.





What you should do is apply for citizenship yourself.





Raise your right hand and pledge allegiance to the United States and forsake the country you came from.





There is nothing left for you there.





Welcome to the USA sweetie!
Very easy.. besides, he\she can apply for green card
sheba is wrong, not until age 21, see form I-130 instructions at www.uscis.gov
It's very easy if......





1. The child is 21 or older





and





2. The parent is NOT here illegally.
It depends on how much they have 'back home' to indicate they will return. It is a situation where many overstay, so care is taken about that.
If you are not currently married to a US citizen (the father of your anchor baby?), then you cannot just pledge to the flag and ';poof'; you are a US citizen.





It is reprehensable that an illegal alien has a baby while in the USA illegally (anchor baby). And shame on you for doing so.


You should have used birth control!





If you are not in this nation legally, and you have a child in this country, you have instigated a big potential mess should you be picked up for deportation, and again, SHAME ON YOU!





You are an illegal alien, and you can be deported, your child will be deported with you, since they are under the age of consent, unless you choose to leave him/her with another family here in the USA to be raised, and if you do so, you have to sign papers giving them legal guardianship, so that your child can get medical help if they are in a horrible accident or something.





Since you do not have a legal green card, and are in the US illegally, you need to return to your own country, so that you can apply, from there, to immigrate legally, this could take up to 7 years.


You are free to take your baby with you.


If you choose to stay in your own country, and not immigrate legally to the USA, your child has the right, at 18 to make a decision to live in the USA, and may use their legal US birth certificate to verify citizenship.


At that time, your US citizen child can file for you to immigrate legally, as his or her sponsered family member.


This process, one way or the other, will take years.





If you choose to remain in the USA, whether or not your kid is a citizen, you may be arrested and deported at any moment.





You made a mess of your life by having a baby while illegal in a foreign country.


I only hope you are not on some kind of US public assistance.


I want my taxes to be spend for US citizens, and legal immigrants, not for illegal aliens who make anchor babies, and who have absolutely NO respect for our borders, our laws, our nation.
Easy ? NOT SINCE 9/11 !! Go to the USCIS website and read the GUIDELINES !!

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If you could name a child anything you wanted without input form the other parent, what would the name be?

Boy or girl, it doesn't matter.If you could name a child anything you wanted without input form the other parent, what would the name be?
phoebeIf you could name a child anything you wanted without input form the other parent, what would the name be?
Girl: Kyler,(idk i just love it and i wish it was my name)


Kendall


Isbella(I want it b/c I love Bella)


Brynn





Boy: Junior from whatever my husbands name is gonna be


Tyler


Andrew


Brian


Daniel (Danny)


Derek
BOY: Taylor





GIRL: Olivia
Boy: Daniel


Girl: Lillian
Boy - David


Girl - Rebecca
Boy: Ayden


Girl: Tatiana
After famous wrestlers that have past away





Boy: Owen


Girl: Elizabeth or Sherri
Taven - Boy


Valice - Girl
Boy- Nekko Alexander
boy: eric israel


girl: jeanette and/or elizabeth
Girl- Charlotte Rose


Boy- Jacob Emery or Matthew Christopher
Boy, Tiberius.
Valair So The Substitute Teachers Could Mispronounce Her Name Just As Much As They Do Mine.





Zenaida.
girl: chloe elizabeth


boy: fredrick
Girl- Charlie


Boy- Amanda





I want bold, confident children. This way they'll have to be tough to make it through grade school.
boy: Josiah Duval


girl: Amara Caira
Boy: Matthew, Luke


Girl: Scarlett, Shea
anorexia and bulimia. ann and bull for short.
guy: dave


gal: Christina
I wanted to name my daughter Lillian, so to answer your question Lillian
girl- cassandra


boy- leonardo
Colette Elizabeth or Aiden Lynel
Boy-Jaiden


Girl- Caralissa
Rosalie
Sibeal
Tyler Durden
Shawn


Alisha
sophia and Xavier or oliver
Girl: Lorelei


Boy: Seth or Jacob
Girl: Lindsay or Casey


Boy: Scotty
i would name my son/daughter ''shot''


know y?


Then i can call them come shot come lol if u get it


or


i would name them stain and i'll be like come stain come lol

What is the best advice a parent/teacher can ever give a student or teenager?

The answers might go into our student website http://school-teacher-student-motivation-resources-courses.com/studentselfhelp.htmlWhat is the best advice a parent/teacher can ever give a student or teenager?
Give consideration to what your goal is whether this is long term or short term. Find out factually from experts what you need to do to actually achieve this goal. Look at your current actions and decide whether you need to change anything in order to succeed and whether you are prepared to make these changes. If you are then make a plan on how and when you will make the changes, if not start to make new goals.What is the best advice a parent/teacher can ever give a student or teenager?
Be true to yourself, because no matter what might come your way, you will be the one constant. If you lose sight of who you are, you lose sight of everything.
Don't think you know it all. Don't immediately discount the advice that others may give. At least consider it to see if it has merit.
Form the movie Transformers..Capt Witwicky said..';No Sacrifies,No Victory'; work hard for the things you want to achieve..most important to all make GOd as the center of your life...
Talk full responsibility and consequences for all of your actions.
wait to have sex.


dont do drugs.


never fall into peer pressure.


idk basics(:

How do a single middle class parent get any childcare assistant.?

Based on my income I make too much money, however there is no way I can afford daycare. What should I do?How do a single middle class parent get any childcare assistant.?
Look harder, there are always situations available.





I'm not even in the middle class (upper, lower class) and I can afford daycare and don't qualify for anything but a very small ($25 a week) subsidy.





If you can't find a sitter you'll have to stay home until your child is old enough or you can afford it.How do a single middle class parent get any childcare assistant.?
You can't. In my state, even low income parents can't get childcare assistance. It is only available to certain groups, such as families transitioning off welfare.





The solution is to become creative to find an affordable solution. Start with family - can anyone babysit and when and what might they charge? Maybe a parent can watch your child enough that you only need part time daycare. Look for home daycares, they may be less expensive than centers. Look at you budget and see if there is anywhere you can tighten. If your child is old enough for Head Start, see if you qualify. Again, it would cut down on the amount of time he is at daycare and perhaps the cost. Do you know any stay at home parents who could watch your child? Any college students who could nanny for you part time?





Good luck.
First, if you cant pay child care, are you really middle class?





Next, there is a reason why you dont qualify even though you cant afford it... most of these programs use formulas from the 60s to calculate whether or not you qual... Formulas that today go unchanged because it works in favor of the benefits... FAR fewer people qualify than if an updated formula were used. In fact, if public benefits used an updated formula for determining the poverty line and which families qual, I think the estimate is something like half of the people that call themselves middle class would actually be below the poverty line.





Third.... Look for a stay at home mom... In home day care is all the rage right now. Some parents maximize it and bring in tons of money catering to different needs. Other moms are just looking for a lil bit of money to allow them to stay at home, and the charge cheep rates. There are some in my area that go as cheep as 30 and 40 a week for full time care. BUT, most of them will be unlicensed (and legally so if they are only watching a couple of kids) so make certain that you do all of your homework on the providor.





OR, you could do just that yourself. Work from the home and open a a day care. Offer the right services, you could make just as much as a full time out of the house job, even with being legally licensed and paying taxes.
I know exactly how your feel. I am a single mother who works 2 jobs while going to school and finding affordable daycare has always been a struggle. Look for someone in your area who babysits in their home. They usually do not charge as much as a day care. Find a stay at home mom who may be looking to make some extra money on the side that would be willing to help you. You can also find other single parents who need help with childcare and trade off watching each others children.
Get child support order and or shop around and find someone you can aford. Or get a lower paying job to get day care assistance. Move in with your parents to save on rent to pay for day care








or here is a novel idea before giving birth you should have thought about that and if you couldn't do it then you should not of had your baby
If you have time to plan ahead, look into dependent care sayings accounts. You can save a couple thousand a year with these and their tax free benefits.





Look into in-home licensed daycares versus centers, they are often much less, and your child gets the benefit of interacting with older children.
I would look in your area for an at home sitter. I do that and I only charge 20 a day. We are also more flexible with hours. If the babysitter is unlicensed she can't have more then 6 kids, so the chances of your baby getting sick are less then in a daycare where they can have 12 infants in one room. Good luck!
The way the system is set up, it isn't easy to climb up and improve yourself. Once they have you all the way you can find all the help you need if you use it. If you just need a little hand getting to the next rung, your on your own.
I'm almost in the same boat. Daycare for my unborn baby will be 195 a week! I don't think there's much help for the middle class in situations like this, unfortunately. But, if you find some...please let me know.
try going to a YWCA or take advantage of community day care centers, Church Day care centers or public school daycare.





if that does not help try contacting 4c's
Literally nowhere, unless you fabricate (not recommended or condoned, just using an example).
first you learn to spell





then you look into 4C's


or


ask local churches if they have low cost child care