As a parent, how do you deal with your teen having a child?

How do I deal with the issue and how do I have open discussion with him without making him feel worse than he probably already does? I just don't want to say the wrong thing. I'm concerned that his girlfriend might be pregnant by someone else because she had cheated before behind his back. I was instructed by my lawyer that he should not sign any papers when the child is born until we get a DNA test. I want to talk to him about these things without making him defensive. Maybe some moms out there can give some advice who already went through this. Thanks!As a parent, how do you deal with your teen having a child?
The very worst thing you can do is get the moms back up now doubting your sons the father, presume that he is the father and support her as its best to get her on side and sort the dna out behind her back as to not get her back up therefore if the child is proven to be your son's then a good relationship has not been taunted with accusations, if the child is not his make sure to keep all documents of monetery support and claim it back afterwards etc.


forget that he did wrong its too late to put it back but accept and aknoledge your son is now about to become a father and encourage him to act his part and get involved. i can only imagine what i would do but all too often the mothers of the son always insist the child isnt theirs getting the mothers back up, avoid that and it could ensure a promising relationship between you and your g/child if itis proven to be yours, if its proven not to be then theres nothing lost just a lesson learnt.


i agree dont sign any paper work if a reason has to come up then say and say it meaningfully that you believe and hope it is your sons but absoloute peace of mind you have to know and hope she understands, a lot lies within how you say things to ppl instead of what is said, tread carefully offer both him and her your unconditional support.


good luckAs a parent, how do you deal with your teen having a child?
First they both feel weirded out and scared by this so nothing will make them even worse. So just edge into the conversation. Ask about stuff like hows school going (watch for slipping grades due to this.) Then mention about the baby and ask him if there if any chance of the baby not being his? Say that its just you needing to be sure. Then when she gives birth be at the hospital in case it is his child but don't let your son sign anything get a DNA test and then go from there.Best of luck.
just sit down %26amp; talk with him.


ask him:


what does he want to do with the baby %26amp; the baby's mother.


does he think he can handle this or wat kind of help does he need.


always assure him that he can count on u to talk to inb case he wants advice dont scream at him or make him feel more worse than he already does cuz that will make him feel like he doesnt want to talk with u b/c it makes him feel bad. so just support him but with certain rules and limits
You do not want your son to do any thing till he knows the child is his once his name is on the birth firm he will be responciable and it is so hard to change afterward most judges are simple minded to things like this that are so easy to change. or correct
My 16 y/o daughter just had her baby girl Ella Grace today!
yep need a DNA test, I'd never trust a teenager when it come to the father of her child, they seen to pick out the father who they like best at the time
OK I think that if you had a good open relationship with him in the past then you will be OK this time too, by the sounds of it you might not have but so i will take it from that premise!





Tell him when the child is born and the test is done if it was him that he can blame you for the none signing the forms this should help him get back in some what with the GF! and might help him be OK with your help too





as for making things worse well really how can you? he is most likely feeling so much perisher right now from his GF and your side of the family he would like to have someone on his side of the fence. while I know from what you have done so fare you do care and most likely love him, he is maybe not seeing that side of it, so maybe you should take him to the lawyer so that the lawyer can tell him directly and then let the lawyer know that your Son is now the client and not yourself so then he has some power in this hole thing?





If he is going to be facing this then he will need help and maybe you should tell him that your there to lessen to him and to help him where and when you can.





don't worry about making a mess of talking to him really there is no wrong way to do this talk





Good luck with this
just be there for him
Just say something like i still love you, nothing can change that in the geinigng if i was knocked up thats what i would want my dad to tell me, also talk to him about the dna text i don't really belive theer is a nice way to say that, but he will soon see your point of view, also this girl won't like it much either but tell her it shouldn't be a problem if it's really his.
Let him make his own mistakes. He is an adult.