Saturday, August 21, 2010

What advice would you give to a parent who is finding it hard to cope with their teenagers?

i have a exam tomorrow and the title is how to cope with teenagers


what is the best form of punishment?


and if you know any like percents of people who struggle with teens etc it would really help


thanks xxWhat advice would you give to a parent who is finding it hard to cope with their teenagers?
I tend not to 'punish' my children. I do not ground, take things away, beat etc. It is senseless. Sending my children to their room is the next best thing to heaven, they get peace and quiet, there are video games and toys. No way, I lecture. I make sure they know and understand what they did wrong. Why they should not do that, and the outcome of the situation. My children think that is just horrible to have sit and listen to a lecture. It works great. Often times kids will do wrong because they have no idea what right is. It is our job as parents to teach them.What advice would you give to a parent who is finding it hard to cope with their teenagers?
Get a large plank of 2x4 and hammer in a nail, then....


Just kidding.


I was a teenager once, and I know how awful I was, so my advice to parents is, ignore the wining, whinging and constant misery. They are just doing it to get a rise from you.





Do not let them push it, whatever they say, they don't need whatever it is they're asking for.





I would say the best form of punishment is withholding pocket money and privileges - teenagers are adult size and if they are bloody minded, they could just walk out, but if they've no money in their pocket, and can't buy anything they want, they'll soon realise you mean business.





I would also never let them have locks on their bedroom doors, and threaten to remove any tv, video games etc. Remind them that they're just a child.
Spend time with your teenager(s) and get them out of their normal surroundings where they can let their guard down and talk with you - i.e. take them camping, go away to someplace you've never been, go on an adventure,.... Punishment is a way to deal with bad behavior, but it's not always going to get to the root of the problem. In fact, it could make things worse. You need to foster a relationship with open communication so if they are struggling with something they will feel comfortable talking to you about it. - - - Not that punishment is unnecessary - they still have to understand that bad behavior is not tolerated and there are consequences for their actions. They have to understand that you are punishing the action though and that you still love them (and it's because you love them that you are disciplining them).
Teenagers can be a nightmare. They believe that they are already old enough to make life choices. The most successful way to punish them is to take away thier freedom, by grounding them. There is no violence involved in this, but it can hit them really hard as they will have no contact with their mates until the grounding is complete!! You might tell them that they are grounded for a fortnight, but if they show remorse and help around the house, you can tell them that they will be able to use the computer to speak to their mates after one week. That usually does the trick..You have to remember that teenagers have loads of raging hormones and do not usually mean to upset you with thier actions. If you let them see that you are willing to come and go with them, they will be more co-operative. Your best bet is to stick to whatever punishment that you dish out. If you crumble, they will know that they can manipulate you and will continue to do so. My mate has a teenage daughter and she tried ';bribing'; her with treats, which did not work. She eventually laid down the law and her daughter respected her for that. The best of luck, teenagers can try your patience!!!
Well, actually it depends on what age the teenager is because usually each teenager goes through the stage when they dont wasnt to be botherd and are sometimes being bitchy but for as tallking you should come at a time when they are usually relaxed and maybe try to talk to them on their level in a calm and loving way but dont push it! Try not to accrovate them everyday trying to talk or yelling at them because it make s it wworse and they eventually wouldnt want to be botherd with oyu at all

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